Quote and Question: Change IS coming

“Resolve to be a master of change rather than a victim of it. “
– Brian Tracy


Change IS coming. No doubt about that.

Change is coming …

  • work
  • home
  • technology
  • economy
  • family
  • health
  • children
  • Everything will change sooner or later.

But here’s the thing; You get to choose to either be a master of change or a victim of change.

What role do you choose?



If you love life, life will love you back

“I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.”
~ Arthur Rubinstein



I thought that if I could get life to love me, then I would love life back. Basically, I had it backwards.

Worse, I was waiting… waiting for things to change, for people to love or accept me, for ‘it’ to get better. Too much waiting and hoping.

Now I believe in agency; I get to give love without expectations or conditions. That means I go first. I act. I don’t wait for fate to smile upon me and my circumstances to change. I attract.

We all get to choose. What is your choice?

Act & attractorwait & hope

I go first.

I control my attitude and my actions.

I have agency.

I go first.

How about you?


Direction is More Important than Speed

Perhaps it’s because we live in an instant gratification world.
Perhaps it’s because we’re humans and we just want what we want and we want it now!
Regardless, the philosophy of “direction being more important than speed” is showing up frequently in topics such as:

  • Health (eating healthy, losing weight / getting stronger /running faster)
  • Money (saving for retirement, getting out of debt, buying a new house)
  • Relationships (Getting a date, surrounding yourself with good people, finding a life partner)
  • Habits (tobacco, flossing, positive attitude)

Tip: First, get crystal clear on your desired result.

Bonus Tip:
Enjoy the process! Because life is too short to delay happiness until you ‘arrive’.



Are your routine actions aligned with your desired outcomes?


Lessons from vacation: Tech in paradise? (blame the adults)

While enjoying a rare technology free vacation at a Mexican resort recently, I was struck by the apparently distorted relationship both children and adults had with digital devices. In fact, parents were worse and it’s their fault.

Adults were “modeling” incessant technology use at the beach, poolside, in the pool, at the restaurant, etc. Basically, adults were using technology everywhere & all the time.

If you’ve ever spent a week at an all-inclusive resort you understand that you see many of the same people for an entire week and it was obvious who was addicted to the constant checking of Facebook updates, text messages, etc. I am not exaggerating when I state well over half of the adults in my line of sight at any given time were using a smartphone or tablet.

What the heck are we (adults) doing?

What the heck are we (parents) teaching our children?

Parents Digital Actions Speak Louder than words

A parent’s digital actions speak much louder than their words.

I appreciate using technology to communicate when needed in certain situations.  And I appreciate enjoying games or being “social” with others by using technology.  But choosing to use technologies should be done intentionally – not out of ‘habit’.

I recall how wonderful my vacation time with my family was. I truly, truly enjoyed them. Most of all, I enjoyed being fully PRESENT with them.

I wonder how much joy technology-distracted parents forfeited at that same resort because they felt they ‘needed’ to keep up with the latest friend request, tweet, or perhaps fear of “missing and email”?

Sad for them.

“Men have become the tools of their tools.” Henry David Thoreau

Here’s another example… at my daughter’s middle school sporting event I couldn’t help but wonder how much certain parents were missing because they were CONSTANTLY taking pictures and videos (read: they were not really ‘present’). How many pictures do you really need? How many hours of video are you going to watch? Choose how you invest your time at these events wisely.

It’s ironic that their pursuit of “capturing” the moment actually robbed them of fully experiencing it in the first place.

Parents must DECIDE and define what a healthy relationship with technology means and model that for their children:

When is it acceptable to use technology and when is it not?
For how long?
For what purpose?

Just because we ‘can’ doesn’t mean we ‘should’.


Quote and Question: Who determines YOUR happiness?

“It’s up to us to determine our happiness.
No one else is in charge.
No one else is to blame.
No one else gets the credit.
Our happiness is tied to our willingness to be responsible for our own moods.
That’s a certainty — one of few in this life.” –Karen Casey


Recall the last time you were unhappy then apply this quote; How do you feel?

What are you thinking?