Quote and Question: Change IS coming

“Resolve to be a master of change rather than a victim of it. ”
– Brian Tracy

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Change IS coming. No doubt about that.

Change is coming …

  • work
  • home
  • technology
  • economy
  • family
  • health
  • children
  • Everything will change sooner or later.

But here’s the thing; You get to choose to either be a master of change or a victim of change.

What role do you choose?

 

 

Lessons from vacation: Tech in paradise? (blame the adults)

While enjoying a rare technology free vacation at a Mexican resort recently, I was struck by the apparently distorted relationship both children and adults had with digital devices. In fact, parents were worse and it’s their fault.

Adults were “modeling” incessant technology use at the beach, poolside, in the pool, at the restaurant, etc. Basically, adults were using technology everywhere & all the time.

If you’ve ever spent a week at an all-inclusive resort you understand that you see many of the same people for an entire week and it was obvious who was addicted to the constant checking of Facebook updates, text messages, etc. I am not exaggerating when I state well over half of the adults in my line of sight at any given time were using a smartphone or tablet.

What the heck are we (adults) doing?

What the heck are we (parents) teaching our children?

Parents Digital Actions Speak Louder than words

A parent’s digital actions speak much louder than their words.

I appreciate using technology to communicate when needed in certain situations.  And I appreciate enjoying games or being “social” with others by using technology.  But choosing to use technologies should be done intentionally – not out of ‘habit’.

I recall how wonderful my vacation time with my family was. I truly, truly enjoyed them. Most of all, I enjoyed being fully PRESENT with them.

I wonder how much joy technology-distracted parents forfeited at that same resort because they felt they ‘needed’ to keep up with the latest friend request, tweet, or perhaps fear of “missing and email”?

Sad for them.

“Men have become the tools of their tools.” Henry David Thoreau

Here’s another example… at my daughter’s middle school sporting event I couldn’t help but wonder how much certain parents were missing because they were CONSTANTLY taking pictures and videos (read: they were not really ‘present’). How many pictures do you really need? How many hours of video are you going to watch? Choose how you invest your time at these events wisely.

It’s ironic that their pursuit of “capturing” the moment actually robbed them of fully experiencing it in the first place.

Parents must DECIDE and define what a healthy relationship with technology means and model that for their children:

When is it acceptable to use technology and when is it not?
For how long?
For what purpose?

Just because we ‘can’ doesn’t mean we ‘should’.

 

Lessons from vacation: 7 Days without technology

1995 was the last time I went 7 straight days without technology. No internet. No social media. No texting. Nada. Here’s what one ‘tech free’ week recently taught me:

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It’s easy to break the technology “habit” when…

  • You are intentional about doing so
  • You can count on your team back at work
  • You have provided emergency contact information to folks back home in case of emergencies

I missed technology when…

  • I wanted to enrich my experience by learning more about something (animal, weather patterns, historical marker, etc.)
  • I reached for my iPhone out of habit – no reason – just a habit.

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I learned…

  • I do not need technology
  • I benefit from technology
  • I LOVED feeling connected to my wife and family without distraction
  • 535 emails upon my return didn’t make a bit of difference in the scope of my life
    • 95 minutes to delete/file/forward all but 84 of those emails
    • New approach – I started ignoring email all but twice per day. (Think about it… if I can eliminate 84% of a week’s worth of emails in an hour and a half, my productivity should increase dramatically by intentionally ignoring email until focused time. I’ll keep you posted.)
  • Social Media went on without me and I did not need to ‘catch up’

When was the last time you were without technology for a “long time” and what did you learn?

 

Do you make room for “real time” or are you like this dad?

Here is a 39 second example of an unhealthy parent-child relationship with technology:

As part of our family’s technology contract with each other, we do not allow tablets (or phones) at the dinner table because

we prefer to truly be present with each other!

How does this video make you feel?

Do you allow electronics at the dinner table?

How do children feel when treated like this?

 

3 Things to Talk to Your Kids About BEFORE Watching the Super Bowl

I came across this nugget from the folks at Common Sense Media and wanted to share before the big game. They suggest talking with your kids about body image, marketing, and violence.

 

Did they nail it? Do you agree with all of their suggestions? Would you add or change anything?

I hope you have a SUPER day with your loved ones!