Let’s take a look at how some typical school situations tell you volumes about your parenting…
Situation: Your high school child has three unexcused absences and swears he was in class and its the teacher’s mistake. Do you…
A. Send the teacher a scathing email
B. Encourage your student to work with the teacher to correct the mistake
C. Call the Principal and demand that the wrong be righted!
Situation: Your middle school student complains of not being able to get into his locker and must leave his belongings on the floor. Worse, the locker has not worked all year long. Do you…
A. Send the custodian a scathing email
B. Encourage your student to work with the school to correct the mistake
C. March in to the school to fix it yourself
Situation: Your straight A senior in high school is up for class valedictorian and has multiple academic scholarship opportunities. Unfortunately, it looks like she will get a B in Physical Education class. Do you…
A. Send a scathing email to the PE teacher
B. Encourage your student to talk to the teacher to find out what she can do to improve her grade
C. Go directly to the Superintendent
Before I share the answers I believe are correct, have you put together your list of three attributes that you want your children to possess when they grow up. (My wife and I want our kids to be independent, confident, and kind.)
It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” Roy E. Disney
When you make decisions based on values the right path is clear – not easy – but clear.
In case it’s not obvious, my answers for all situations is B.