4 reasons to LOVE Thanksgiving

I love Thanksgiving – Love it, love it! Why? 4 simple reasons:

 

  1. It’s a fact (26 scientific studies and counting)
  2. It’s about appreciation
  3. It’s about others
  4. It feels good (really good)

McBreen Family Fall 2014

“Give thanks for unknown blessings already on their way.” –Native American saying

Answer the following questions and see how good thankfulness feels:

  • Who are three amazing people in my life? (Tip – call them and tell them right now)
  • What are three great things about where I live?
  • What are three great things about where I work or what I do for a living?

I’m thankful to have an opportunity to connect with awesome people like you.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Joe

Are you ready to take the parenting quiz?

Let’s take a look at how some typical school situations tell you volumes about your parenting… helicopter parents 1

Situation: Your high school child has three unexcused absences and swears he was in class and its the teacher’s mistake.  Do you…

A. Send the teacher a scathing email

B. Encourage your student to work with the teacher to correct the mistake

C. Call the Principal and demand that the wrong be righted!

Situation: Your middle school student complains of not being able to get into his locker and must leave his belongings on the floor. Worse, the locker has not worked all year long. Do you…

A. Send the custodian a scathing email

B. Encourage your student to work with the school to correct the mistake

C. March in to the school to fix it yourself

Situation: Your straight A senior in high school is up for class valedictorian and has multiple academic scholarship opportunities. Unfortunately, it looks like she will get a B in Physical Education class. Do you…

A. Send a scathing email to the PE teacher

B. Encourage your student to talk to the teacher to find out what she can do to improve her grade

C. Go directly to the Superintendent

Time Out!

Before I share the answers I believe are correct, have you put together your list of three attributes that you want your children to possess when they grow up.  (My wife and I want our kids to be independent, confident, and kind.)

It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” Roy E. Disney

When you make decisions based on values the right path is clear – not easy – but clear.

In case it’s not obvious, my answers for all situations is B.

 

“I just want my kids to be happy” is the WRONG answer

What do you want you for your children?

Are you clear about your goals as a parent?

When I ask people about their professional goals, they can tell me immediately; short terms goals, long term goals, where they are strong and where they need work.  In other words, they have a great amount of clarity in their professional lives.

But when the same question is asked about their parenting goals there are typically two responses; The first is ‘nothing’ (read: a blank stare, clarifying questions, etc.) and the second is usually admirable but, frankly,  so vague it is worthless.

“I just want my kids to be happy” is the wrong answer!

Can you imagine if the CEO of a Fortune 500 company was asked what they want to achieve and responded with, “I just want the people in my company to be happy”?

Do you have clear work parenting goals?

Do you have a company parenting vision or mission statement?

Do you have a weekly company family meeting?

If you answered ‘no’, don’t feel badly – most parents do not have goals, a family mission or vision, etc.

Responsibility-Diagramimage from http://specialopsmoms.blogspot.com/

Over the next few weeks, I’ll present a few common situations (such as working with teachers and coaches when times are tough) that discuss and challenge how most parents deal with them and connect parental actions with developing truly healthy, independent children.

So, tell me, are you crystal  clear on your goals as a parent?

What three attributes do you want your children to have when they become adults?

Quote & Question: Have you been putting off the important things in your life?

Quote: “The time to repair the roof is when the sun is shining.” ~ John F. Kennedy

 

Question: What important but not urgent thing have you been putting off?

Hole in roof

Enter your comments below.